Premature Ejaculation

I never get to experience all these different positions and things because Ialways come within a couple of minutes. Any suggestions?

Gary, Lincolnshire.

Hi Gary,

The first and most obvious thing is that maybe you´re not having sex often enough. You need to find the right frequency for you so that you´re excited enough to have sex but not so excited that you can´t keep control. Everyone is different so you´ll need to experiment. Maybe you need to ejaculate every day, maybe you need to ejaculate a couple of hours before having sex… Find out.

Whilst you´re doing that, try to improve your control. In other words, as soon as you feel yourself getting towards the point of no return, cease all stimulation. After things have subsided a bit, you can resume masturbation. Keep on like that. Hopefully you´ll reach a point at which your penis gets “fatigued”. Once that happens – maybe after 20 minutes – you´ll find it easier to keep control. Practise on your own like that every day.

When you´re actually having sex you may find it helps to keep a clock near the bed and set a target. Some men find the discipline helps a lot.

If none of that works have a word with your doctor. There are medicaments that can tackle the problem.